Life Post │Tragedies: How to overcome them

Tragedies are unfortunate events that take place at different stages of our lives. They could exist several times in our life, and they could be expected. However, most of the time they are unexpected. These events tend to vary but the pain differs from one person to another. One thing we all have to acknowledge is... they will happen no matter what.

When you expect a tragedy to take place, you might possible do the following:

ü  Deny it: you strongly refuse to acknowledge certain strategies to take place therefore you either completely deny it or do more research before acknowledging it. As a result, you will experience anger, confusion, and probably fear.

ü  Ignore it: the moment you acknowledge that certain tragedies may take place in your life, you might simply ignore it. You try to avoid it by distracting yourself from these expectations and not think about them. As a result, you will feel sad, depressed, and frustration.

ü  Stop it: when you expect something really bad is going to happen, you will do whatever it takes in order for it not to occur. In certain cases your strategies may work, and you may fail as well. You will be mostly intense, stressed, and anxious.

ü  Accept it: this is the most painful action to do, accept the fact that a tragedy will take place and there is nothing you can do about it. Sometimes, things can get out of control and it is out of your hands to avoid or stop a tragedy from taking place. Therefore, you give up and accept it. For sure, you will experience all the negative emotions.

If an unexpected tragedy took place, this is how you will probably act:

ü  React emotionally to it: you will be filled with negative emotions such as: anger, frustration, stress, sadness, and depressed. All these emotions will show up and you will absorb negative energy therefore your reaction can come in a form of cries, shouts, and even breaking things.

ü  Remain silent: some events could be shocking to the point you can't show any reaction. This usually happens when you face your fears the moment you're not ready. It also happens when things you never considered to happen in your life suddenly existed. As a result, you feel sad and depressed but you are unable to let it out or talk about it.

ü  Stay strong: one of the least easy things to do at early stages of occurrence of tragedies. At certain times, you are more concerned about getting things right rather than cry about it. In addition to that, there could be other parties involved in same tragedy and they would need your support.  

Now here comes the main question: How do I overcome these tragedies?

One thing everyone should know is that there is no fixed methodology that deals with every tragedy. Each event has different methodology to overcome tragedies, however there are some common methodologies that can help in moving on. These methodologies are:

ü  Be Supportive: one of the things that could easily drown you into the ocean of misery is yourself. Yes, you could be the cause of your own self-destruct when you refuse to move on and stick to negative emotions. If you keep locking yourself in bedroom, over thinking and crying about what happened, you won’t be able to move on. This is why you need to be determined to let go of depression and support yourself. This determination will allow you to take further step into moving on.

ü  Stop Looking for Reasons: most of the time, we question existence of the tragedy that took place in our life. We always wonder:

-          Why did this happen?

-          What have I done to deserve this?

-          How did this happen?

Here is solution, STOP WONDERING! Do not wonder or put reasons to existence of a tragedy. The more you think about, the worst it can get. Just know that what’s done is done. No matter what reasons are, it was meant to happen and there is nothing you can do about it. When you stop reasoning, you will be able to calm down.

ü  Get out of comfort zone: yes you heard me, get out of the safe zone that you have been living in for a while. It is time to try out new things, new experiments, and new activities. When a tragedy takes place, your surroundings become suffocating and you will need something new to lift your mood up. You can always start small, like change your hairstyle, then gradually go big and do things like traveling to new place. Getting out of comfort zone can distract you from misery and it is best cure to treat depression.

ü  Look at positive side: there is always positive and negative side of everything, even tragedies. Therefore, instead of focusing on negative side, take a look at positive side. There is definitely a brighter side for tragedy. It may have happened to prevent you from certain incident, or it could be an alert to your behavior. Example: You didn't get hired at certain organization. On the bright side think that you are probably meant to get hired at better organization. Positive thinking is the best way to cure from whatever makes you depressed and with time you will easily move on.

ü  Ask for help: now this is very important method to follow, always ask for help. There are times where you will face unexpected tragedies that are shocking enough to keep you fully numb. At such cases, you will need every support you can get from people you love and trust. Not getting necessary support from your beloved ones will destroy you therefore do not hesitate to ask for help.

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