LIFE POST │ INSECURITIES

There are times where life shocks you with events that you have never expected to go through. These events could include: Failure, Break ups, and worst of all Death of beloved ones. When these events take place you accumulate fear, depression, and anxiety at the same time. Therefore, you start to feel insecure about everything. Dear reader if you are feeling this way, its okay we all feel the same way at certain stage of our life.

When you lose a friend you loved and respected, you lose trust. When you break up with person you loved, you lose hope in love. When you fail in a course you worked so hard for, you lose self confidence. All of these are examples of situations where you start to develop insecurities. Now that you knew how insecurities exist, you need to learn how to deal with them.

Unfortunately there is no specific method that will ease all insecurities. However, there are tips that have personally helped me overcome my insecurities and they may help you too overcome your own securities. The following tips are:

1-      Let it all out: the moment you face a shock in your life, don't hold your anger or sadness about it just let it out. Complain and cry about it. Holding negative emotions within your heart will make things worst so it is best to release them. If you can't speak about it, write it down in your own journal.

2-      Get yourself busy: after letting out all your emotions, it's time to heal your wounds by keeping yourself busy. To get yourself busy, look for an activity that you enjoy doing to distract you from feeling insecure. These activities could be exercising, painting, reading, or even a simple activity like gaming.

3-      Try something new: another way to feel less insecure is to get outside your comfort zone. Try doing things that you have never done before like cut your hair shorter, go to a museum, or start hiking. When you leave your comfort zone and try new things you will be able to overcome your insecurities. However, don't start with major things, instead start with simple things first.

4-      Isolate yourself: to be honest this tip could be either constructive or destructive depending on your circumstances. Sometimes you need to take a break from social media and from people in general. When you isolate yourself from your surroundings you may be able to deal with your insecurities by mediating, relaxing and reliving from stress. In certain situations, your surroundings could be the cause of feeling insecure and by isolating yourself you will be able to relieve yourself from these insecurities.

5-      Change your routine: this is the tip that helped me the most, changing your routine. There are times where life gets messed up and you become unproductive. To fix this mess, you will have to change your sleeping schedule and plan your day in advance. By doing this, you will change your routine, making your life more balanced and become productive.

6-      Resolve your issues: sometimes insecurities take place when you face a certain issue. For example: acne and undesirable body shape could be one of your insecurities. These issues could be resolved through exercising and getting treatments for your skin. Once you manage to fix these insecurities, you will feel much better and more confident.

7-      Stay away from negative people: this is the most difficult tip to do but I assure you that once you manage to do it, you will feel better and happier. Negativity could be one of causes of having insecurities. One of the things that cause negativity is your surroundings. If you are hanging out with people that disrespect you or criticize you, best solution is to cut ties or stay away from them as long as possible. Whether these were your relatives or friends, a negative environment will kill self confidence, trust, and make you feel extremely unsecured. Therefore, you need to keep distance with them and only when necessary get them out of your life.

8-      Prayers: saved the best tip for the last. Praying and reading Quran at times where you feel depressed or insecure can help you clear your mind and calm down. Your negative vibes will be smoothed and within a short period of time it will all be gone. Skipping prayers is not good at all. Like your body, you soul needs to be fed with prayers so don't neglect your soul.

One thing I like to address as well is that don't expect to overcome your insecurities within a short period of time. Insecurities usually develop at difficult times therefore you take your time to overcome them because it is not easy to do that. From personal experience, the longest period I took to overcome one of my difficult insecurities is 4 months. Based on that, I'm addressing this point.

Well that's all I wanted to say about dealing with insecurities. I hope this post will benefit you in your life and you manage to overcome your own insecurities. Please share it to all your beloved ones who might be facing difficulties in their lives. Have a nice day and will catch up next week with another blog post.